What happens if I start a new relationship after separation but before I am divorced?
Written by Anne Shears | Family team |15 September 2023
It is not unusual for clients to tell us that, since separating from their spouse, they have met someone else and have started a new relationship. Parties cannot put their life on hold while the divorce process is underway, but it is important that the implications of being in a new relationship are understood.
It is not unusual for clients to tell us that, since separating from their spouse, they have met someone else and have started a new relationship. Parties cannot put their life on hold while the divorce process is underway, but it is important that the implications of being in a new relationship are understood.
As your new relationship progresses, you may wish to live with your new partner. Although each case turns on its own facts and the circumstances of cohabitation will be individual, the financial outcome of your case is likely to be affected.
Living on your own is generally accepted by the Court as being more expensive than living with another person because household expenses are shared. This will mean that your income needs are not as high as they would be if living on your own. Also, it could be argued by your ex-spouse that your housing needs have been met which could change the outcome of a case.
Living with your new partner can also influence arrangements for your children to stay overnight with you. Your move could be unsettling for your children and should be handled carefully and with the welfare of your children being the priority. It is appropriate that your ex-spouse is informed of the move and where the children will be staying.
For many ex-spouses, the fact that your life has moved on is going to open up old wounds which can cause significant upset and can derail ongoing negotiations in relation to finances and arrangements for the children. Letting your ex-spouse know that you are in a new relationship is important, along with reassurance about when you will introduce your children to a new partner.
Finally, be very careful with your social media posts. When great things are happening in our lives, we are often keen to tell the world, but please remember that saying through a solicitor that you are not in a relationship while having a social media account with a status change or photographs of you and your new partner on holiday/out and about with children may well cause problems in your case.
No one is expected to delay their future happiness but how your life moving on is shared, firstly, with your an ex-spouse and, secondly, to the world at large can be carefully managed with the right advice.
To find out more about how our specialist Family Team can support you with managing your divorce alongside a new relationship, please contact us via 01752 827030 or email us at enquiries@nash.co.uk.
